A good divorce starts by never losing sight of why you are divorcing…to lessen conflict … And I had a "good" divorce. Divorce happens. And I had a “good” divorce. To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number. She is also an acclaimed international speaker. And while it is rarely easy, it can be an opportunity for self-discovery and personal growth. It will change forever how we think about–and do–divorce. To calculate the overall star rating and percentage breakdown by star, we don’t use a simple average. Everyone should read it! So, in celebration of the month, and in recognition of the day, the Good Men Project … Although good divorces are as varied as good marriages, they have important common denominators — namely, the absence of malice and a mutual concern for the well-being of children. In order to navigate out of this carousel please use your heading shortcut key to navigate to the next or previous heading. Dr. Ahrons gives us a blueprint, a lifeline, a survival guide for navigating the divorce process, and beyond that, a new way of thinking. Dr. Ahrons is director of Divorce and Remarriage Consulting Associates in San Diego, California. Divorce can be done well and in a mature way that puts the kids' needs first. Please try again. April is National Poetry Month. Handled wisely, divorce can … Therefore, in short, a good divorce is a divorce that is mutually determined and is fair and workable. The Good Divorce makes an important contribution to the ongoing "family values" debate by dispelling the myth that divorce inevitability leaves emotionally troubles children in its wake. The Good Divorce makes an important contribution to the ongoing "family values" debate by dispelling the myth that divorce inevitability leaves emotionally troubles children in its wake. A senior scholar and founding co-chair of the Council on Contemporary Families, she is an internationally renowned lecturer, consultant, and workshop leader. The Muse observes the Ex-Spouse. The Good Divorce serves as a powerful tonic for the millions of couples and parents, whether they are divorcing now or have been divorced for many years, who are tired of hearing only the damage reports. My heartfelt gratitude to the author for her mature and transforming vision.” ~ Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger and The Dance of Deception, “Intelligent, scholarly, and wonderfully readable in writing about people in their connections, their disconnections and their reconnections, Dr. Ahrons transforms our thinking from the narrow model of ‘broken home’ to the new exciting prospect of the ‘binuclear family.’ She manages the difficult feat of combining practical information with compassionate understanding. Posted on March 20, 2015 by Editorial Staff. Also available as Kindle ebook, “Based on groundbreaking research, Ahrons shows couples how they can move beyond the early stages of breakup and learn to deal with the transition from a nuclear to a ‘bi-nuclear’ family…. Bluntly, there is precious little upside to divorce. Bring your club to Amazon Book Clubs, start a new book club and invite your friends to join, or find a club that’s right for you for free. But when a marriage goes bad, there is no better option than divorce … Yes, unfortunately, for most couples who decide to break up, divorce is synonymous with the latest opportunity for a fierce battle with each other, as well … Very helpful for anyone going thru a divorce, Reviewed in the United States on August 26, 2017, This book help me better understand many aspects of divorce, and in particular how to manage thru this heartbreaking, confusing, scary time in my life. Divorce isn't good per se, but it is better than a bad marriage. Still, divorce is often better for kids than a deeply flawed marriage, and some divorces are better than others. -- Olga Silverstein, author of "The Courage to Raise Good Men. Dr. Constance Ahrons’ important and very helpful new book teaches us how.” ~ Rabbi Laura Geller, Temple Emanuel, Beverly Hills, California, © 2007-2021 Constance R. Ahrons   San Diego CA, redefine the divorced family as a “binuclear,” rather than a “single parent” family, regard “family values” as the cornerstone to healthy families, whether they are binuclear or nuclear, help parents and children establish new roles, rules, and rituals to support the new family structure, take advantage of divorce strategies and parenting solutions that help–rather than hinder–healthy development. You're listening to a sample of the Audible audio edition. The Good Divorce makes an important contribution to the ongoing "family values" debate by dispelling the myth that divorce inevitability leaves emotionally troubles children in its wake. Still, divorce is often better for kids than a deeply flawed marriage, and some divorces are better than others. April 14 is National Ex-Spouse Day. We educate and share through this process to empower all of you. It certainly doesn't solve anything, but is a great perspective and a great starting point to try to build a new path in life, Reviewed in the United States on March 28, 2015.